A question about victim mode

Hi Brooke,

You gave this advice to another student who was asking about how it is that people can do whatever they want.

“But the truth is, other people’s behavior is up to them. Period.

Arguing with that puts you in a victim mode.

People can hurt animals. They kill them daily.

You don’t have a choice but to tolerate it.”

I understand that we can’t control others. But can you tell me:
1.The consequences of being in victim mode
2. If we “tolerate it” (as in your example above with animals) isn’t that victim mode?