My questions last night-me, my accountant and my colleague

Hi Brooke,
I wrote a lot last night and please know you can condense or not post the questions from last night or whatever you wish.
I’ve been suffering but I think its because I am still not letting people be who they are. I see things through a specific lens and I am always wanting to control outcomes by controlling others, and it is subtle because I have a live and let live attitude. I think I have trouble when people don’t agree with me or will go a direction I do not approve of, or agree with someone else over me. I need to give people the freedom to be who they are