I’m struggling to find the R in my models and would love some help. I met a friend in the park whom I have an attraction to and him to me. We are taking things very slow and my brain is giving me thoughts about the way I showed up with him whilst at the park.

C: Met him in the park on Monday evening
T: I was a bit cold with him when he showed me physical affection
F: Frustrated
A: I ruminate about my body language during the meeting. I don’t appreciate how much of a good time we had together.
R: I’m cold with myself?

C: Met him in the park on Monday evening
T: I could have loosened up and touched him more when he touched me
F: Annoyed
A: I think about all the things I could have done/said but didn’t. I think about all the ways in the past that I have rejected love and affection.
R: ?