Reestablishing a relationship with my daughter

Hi Coaches,

I have a 20 year old daughter living at home. We have a very tense relationship and I want to change that. I have been doing a lot of work on dropping my Models for her life, but I realize I have burned a lot of bridges over the years. I don’t know where to start in repairing our relationship. She lives under my roof, but her bedroom door is always closed. I make dinner for her, but she always takes it after I am finished. Her time is taken up by school and work. I don’t want to pressure her in any way but I would like to have a chance to talk and hear what is going on in her life. I worry anything I ask will be interrupted as me trying to control her. I would love your advice on this matter.