I discovered your podcasts on The Large Adoptive Family FaceBook site. One of the Mom’s mentioned that You were amazing and a wonderful alternative to expensive counseling. I have been in counseling on and off for the past 15 years. My counselor is fantastic, and I learned alot about where my thoughts come from. My family of orgin has given me lots of awesome material to run models on. 🙂 Anyway, I listened to your podcasts, and my life will foever be changed. I just joined Scholars in June. I am a successful speech language pathologist and have 5 children. Since beginning your podcasts I have taken massive action to open a clinic with many providers. I am hopeful we will have a building by the end of summer. I also would like to hire a life coach to provide help to the mother’s of the special needs children that I serve. I’m no longer afraid of being afraid 🙂 I’m also off antidepressants for the first time in 17 years. I turned 40 in March, and I have never felt better emotionally. I am in love with myself and this new life I am creating.
So.. my questions is… my husband of 15 years, Mark a self proclaimed pessismist, perfectionist, and critic doesn’t enjoy me sharing my new tools and strategies for life with him. I know that he is here just for me to love, but I’m not sure how to not interject when he is instructing our children in a shaming way. I understand that I should have no expectations of him, but it feels irresponsible to watch him criticise and shame our children after I’ve asked him to use different language. He then becomes angry at me and says that I’ve been brainwashed by you. This does hurt and makes me doubt myself and my own judgement, but the models always make the world right again 🙂 My sister also says that I try to “self help” everyone. I understand that not everyone likes peaches, and I’m good with that but how do you grow relationships with others when you have changed so much and they haven’t? Thoughts that make you go Hmmmmmm…… Big Fat LOve to you!!!!!!