Would love some feedback on my models. Some circumstances and thoughts: I am interested in moving to the city so I can have a steady flow of income while I continue to grow my business. My partner of 4 years flies out for work 20 days, home for 10, closest airport is 2.5hrs drive. He has expressed “I am not interested in being in a city”. He has recently stated “It’s becoming very easy to see that *** isn’t the ideal town for you to prosper your business and have a good steady income. I realize moving to *** is the most obvious and easiest choice for you, and i’m bothered by the fact that the only thing that’s potentially holding you back is me.”
Unintentional:
C – boyfriend of 4 years says, “I am not interested in moving to the city.”
T – I don’t feel he is committed to us.
F – unsupported.
A – try to change his mind, showing him all the reasons it’s a good idea.
R – I try to change him.
Intentional:
C – boyfriend of 4 years says, “I am not interested in moving to the city.”
T – I am learning to accept and respect his choices.
F – supportive
A – listen to his concerns, love him unconditionally, practice accepting him for who he is
R – he gets to be him I get to be me.

This intentional model is a new for me and when I write it, a lot of sadness comes up because of new thoughts like: he’s doesn’t want to be with me if i want to move. Would love any insight to help me through. Thank you Brooke.