Hello,

I just started having a new relationship and I’m having all sorts of thoughts and anxiety around it. I have tried both the UM and the IM.

My questions are:
-Not sure if I got the result for the UM right. I know it links with the T but I don’t think there is a tight link here.
-Would be great if there are other Ts I can think of. I realized after finishing this model, this T sounds a bit like I’m seeking validation from the guy.

Your help is much appreciated!
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UM
C: Have been meeting him 2 times a week compared to once a week
T: I feel like the relationship with him is getting too close too soon.
(Other thoughts from TD)
I feel like we might run out of things to talk about and he might start losing interest in me.
F: Scared
A: Worry about how many times we’ve met this week, check phone constantly,
Trying to manipulate the relationship, constantly check if the actions made were okay or not
R: Not really showing up for the relationship?

IM
C: Have been meeting him 2 times a week compared to once a week
T: He’s seeing me 2 times a week because he wants to see me
F: confident
A: Showing up as “me,” not worry about the small details, enjoy the time with him
R: Being confident in myself and to just enjoy his company