Relationship homework – strange outcome


Hi Brooke, 1 of the 4 people I picked in the May homework was my husband. I identified so many wonderful things about him, that I’m truly grateful for. I could see the aspects I am dissatisfied with as mostly projections. But since doing that work I feel more distant from him than ever. The best way I can describe it is that it feels like I “should” want to be with him him, but I don’t. I think you once suggested choosing intimacy for ourselves (instead of for husband or children) but I’m not wanting that. My resistance to moving towards him in any sense is leading me to think our marriage is over. Is there anything else you’d suggest trying? (PS relationships with the other 3 of 4 improved – this was the exception)