Relationship Models


I recently did a thought download on a disagreement my partner and I had. I chose the two thoughts that stuck out to me most. I could use some feedback on the models I created.

Unintentional Model 1
C: Relationship exists
T: I can’t bring up my concerns
F: Frustrated
A: Complain, argue, silent treatment
R: I don’t bring up my concerns

Intentional Model 1
C: Relationship exists
T: I have the option to bring up my concerns
F: Relaxed
A: I choose to discuss the concerns that really matter to me
R: I show up how I want to in my relationship

Unintentional Model 2
C: Partner has a manual
T: I have to succumb to his manual to make the relationship work
F: unseen, unheard
A: I don’t fulfill my own wants/needs, I spend my time trying to change his thoughts/feelings
R: I create unhappiness for myself

Intentional Model 2
C: Partner has a manual
T: Everyone has their own manual they live by
F: Compassion
A: I get curious about my own manual and begin fulfilling my own wants/needs, I spend time making myself happy
R: I create my own happiness