Hi there, trying to get clarity or move through the thought loop I’m stuck with relating to my relationship with my dad. Our dynamic has been difficult for a very long time. His love appears to be conditional. I either do one of two things – try to mend things and get no where,, or completely ignore it and it eats away at me. I’m 30 years old, live with my fiance -am in the midst of planning a wedding,, and I’m so consumed with the family drama. How do I break free from this cycle. I have completely stopped wedding planning in fear that nothing will get better with my dad.

C – My dad is not speaking to me.
T – My dad is emotionally abusive -which will never change
F- Sad, rejected
A- Try to do thing that I think will mend our relationship (ie spend time with him at home, try to accept silence when I see him)
R- Silence continues – I become more sad and it bleeds into other areas of my life