My sister and I have had a rough relationship over the last 5 years. I believe it has to do with a misunderstanding that occurred, but I can’t get her to discuss it with me. Suddenly she will stop responding to text messages and become very distant. For a little while, it gets better then worse again. My initial thought is “I want to have a good relationship with my sister.”
UN Model…
C: My sister doesn’t answer my text messages.
T: I want to have a good relationship with my sister.
F: Sad
A: Continued worry about what I did wrong.
R: no change in circumstance
IN Model…
C: My sister doesn’t answer my text messages.
T: I can love my sister without need of reciprocation.
F: Peace
A:
R:
I’m having trouble filling out the rest of the second model. I’d also appreciate any advice you could give to help me get to that place of peace. It feels a long way away right now. I really want to be close to her.