Hi, feeling resentful and annoyed and not appreciated for what I do for the family. Yet I notice that when I am more loving my husband seems to indeed contribute more. How do I switch model? Can you let me know if the model is fine? Thank you

Unintentional Model

C: It’s Thanksgiving and there is a lot to do
T: Husband doesn’t contribute; has it so easy
F: Annoyed and resentful
A: Ask him to do something
R: Disappointment

Intentional Model
C: It’s Thanksgiving and there is a lot to do
T: It’s fun to cook with kids and build tradition
F: Being present and loving
A: Cook and play music and have fun
R: Husband walked in a saw fun and offered to help!