Loving this month. Wasn’t sure at to expect and it’s been really interesting to examine my views and beliefs in this area.
Firstly, my husband and I have a very equal relationship in the way we show up and contribute. We let each other be who we are and therefore never argue and rarely get frustrated or upset – because everything is honest, accepting and open for discussion. It’s so great.
I have some lovely personal relationships and as an introvert I have learned to be discerning and choose who I spent my time with. This required me to quit people pleasing and choosing to feel resentful and blaming others. Hard lesson but a sweet victory.
Now, reflecting on this, I’m curious about is relationship with self – is this an essential precursor to happy relationships with others?
For example, my friend’s husband has “medication-resistant depression” and she feels he can’t love her, because he doesn’t love himself.
Is that true?
I spent many years in my past feeling unloved and wonder how much that affected both my ability to show up in relationships, and my feelings and projections about others. I spent way too many years feeling frustrated!
As I type, I think I’m answering my own question…but would be interested in your thoughts.