Relationships&control


I am trying to understand, that I can’t control other person and I’m trying not to feel discomfort on someone else’s behavior, I ignore it, BUT what to do when my closest people (husband, mother) trying to control my behavior, my actions, and they are unsatisfied? I am 32 years old! And most of my time I am trying to be perfect and doing things what I don’t want to do, only because I love them and do not want to listen to their reprimand.