My husband has been dishonest with me multiple times over the course of our marriage, the subject of the various times of deceit is not pertinent based on everything I have learned. I have really worked hard on managing my mind and when a situation arises, I change my thinking to see the dishonesty in a light that allows our relationship to progress. Sometimes I wonder if this is really healthy. I feel like a doormat that steps aside and overlooks everything just because I don’t want to carry the negativity around. This is good because I don’t feel terrible, but not good because I have not been able to change all of the thinking about the relationship in general. I do not want to be with someone who continually likes. If there is no consequence for him, why wouldn’t he keep lying? The boundary here seems out of place because I would be trying to control him by getting him not to lie (impossible to do). Any thoughts about this would be appreciated.