Resources for manual for others and managing expectations

Listening to Brooke coach the two women on their boyfriend/husband issues yesterday, was very relatable to me. I joined scholars in November, and I just became aware that I have a manual for others, expect a certain behavior from people, and want validation from others which I now know I just need to get from myself….that was mind blowing!! What she said last night, makes sense. Do you have any additional resources (podcast episodes, books, or somewhere in the self-coaching scholars) that you could direct me to where I could dig in further on this topic to help me digest this information?