Responsibility.


I’m struggling a bit with the model and the idea behind responsibility. My partner and I have been attempting to follow the model in our day to day lives since earlier this year. But things have been especially rocky lately. I understand that my own thoughts about other people’s actions (including words/body language) create my feelings. But the problem is becoming that my partner (knowing this) is choosing to not control their own emotional outbursts, if they are grumpy then I’m constantly getting verbal abuse. If they choose to think that I said something in a way that I didn’t, then it’s my fault and they lash out verbally. It’s like they’re not willing to take responsibility for the circumstances that they create since I’m “responsible for my own emotions”. I can’t reconcile the lack of their own responsibility with all of this. How do I manage it all?