Hey Brooke, I’m really working on getting the results down in my model. They always seem to stump me though (which I know is a thought). Is that okay that I keep bringing them here? Here is the model I have below about my sister. I know I have a manual for her that she should be more grateful for the things I pay for and not be so tight with money.
C: Sister texted “K” (Background – She asked if I paid for my niece’s hair for the wedding. I said yes and that was her response.).
T: She should have at least thanked me for paying for my niece’s hair.
F: entitled, resentful
A: complain about what she said to other people, judge her
R: ?
I do feel really justified that she should have said thank you even though I know she gets be however she wants. I’m struggling to see what result I’m creating for myself. I know I’m creating negativity – think negatively about my sister?
Even though I feel like she should have thanked me, I know I’m not going to reach out and say to her that she should. I’m thinking that I could have done work beforehand to decide how I wanted to feel about paying for my niece’s hair and felt great about it regardless of what my sister did or didn’t do right? I felt like I should pay for her hair because otherwise my sister would have thrown a fit because I would have asked her to pay for it. I could have asked her to do that or I could have decided that paying for my niece’s hair was what I wanted right? SO interesting – I’m figuring this out as I type! Still a bit confused on the result though. Thank you!!!