Results about other people

Hi Brooke,

How do you do a model that uses a thought about someone else, and makes the result about you?

Two questions to this:
1. Am I correct in believing that models show us what WE will do, not what other people will do? (Example: you can’t have a result that equals “My mother ends up feeling more lonely” or “He chooses not to go out with me” because it’s only about what we can control, which is our thoughts, feelings, action, and results, right?)

2. I can’t see how I make this thought true. I feel like I’m always stretching the result to match the thought, it doesn’t actually fit.

C: Talking about new ideas I believe
T: My friends and family will judge me
F: Self doubt
A: Play small, censor self, don’t talk about my new ideas
R: ?

My friends and family don’t judge me if I don’t share the ideas though? Can you explain how we come to determine the result in examples like this?