Right and Wrong and Value Systems

I’ve always thought there was a right and a wrong way to do everything.

I know that idea doesn’t serve me because I’m always trying to find the right way to do things which can be stressful. But what about the idea of values being right or wrong? Are values also just opinions and therefore not better or worse, right or wrong?

I’m struggling with this idea. I was brought up to believe certain values were better than others, such as kindness and charity is better than independence, for instance, but that appears to be subjective to the person making that decision and certainly not a fact.

I’m trying to figure this out as I find myself getting angry at people who don’t follow my value system and I want to change that reaction.