Scarcity when things are lost


I completed the money training here in SCS as a way of gearing up for launching my coaching business and received SO MUCH MORE than a healthier money outlook. Money training caused me to examine long cemented beliefs as well as mindless habits, revealing where scarcity was showing up in sneaky, seemingly innocuous areas (how I stocked my pantry with duplicates, squeezing the last drop of hand cream from an empty tube, asking for late checkout at every hotel) — basically getting more all the time just because I could. The biggest shift has probably been how I now speak about neutral things (time, experiences, relationships, weather) in a deliberately more abundant way.

So in keeping with my abundant intention, what’s a useful way to think about things that are lost or missing? In the past I’ve lost very high end jewelry, had rare historic artifacts damaged beyond repair in shipping, and a laptop stolen from a locked car. In retrospect I handled those events very dramatically and created my own unnecessary suffering far beyond the initial event. I know they were just things (some irreplaceable) but not people, and thus of no meaningful value in the scheme of life.

This month I’ve misplaced/lost several useful items which has me acting scarce:
Current model
C: stuff I had
T: I need my lost glasses, shirt and favorite lipgloss
F: missing
A: search constantly, ask everyone if they’ve seen them, imagine dozens of places I may have left them
R: Focus on a few missing objects rather than ALL the tangible and intangible things I DO have

I could easily replace them. It’s possible they aren’t “missing” — they’re still on the planet but I’ve not yet located them. I could go forward without replacing them, deciding they’re no longer needed because they completed their service to me. I could choose the thought that no action is required when an object that was previously here suddenly isn’t. Curiously, none of these feels quite as compelling as the thought that generated my “missing” feeling.

Before I move on to an intentional model, I’d like some input on how to best challenge myself here. If the way we do anything is the way we do everything it occurs to me that while these are relatively insignificant items, it’s an opportunity to put new thinking into practice that I can leverage across my life. I’m also open to considering that while I adore the more abundant me, perhaps I’m now running too many situations through the scarcity/abundance lens.

Thanks,
Kelly C.