Seeing other people’s models

Hi coaches,

I’ve been in SCS for 6 months and love it. I feel like I can’t stop seeing models now. I remember Brook talking about how with her want matches there’s friends that you commiserate with and always take their sides. I’m struggling with being able to be that kind of friend right now because I can see that their thoughts are causing them such negative and unnecessary feelings, and I want to help. An example- a friend calls her husband selfish because he takes time to go biking by himself. I feel like she wants me to commiserate and affirm that I think he’s selfish, but that doesn’t feel honest to me. I think she’s choosing to label him as selfish and that is causing her pain.

So curious how you as coaches, seeped in the Model, navigate day-to-day relationships when you can see unconscious models everywhere!