Sex Life After Babies

I don’t want to have sex often with my husband despite our young kids starting to sleep through the night, stopping nursing, and losing weight. I had anticipated I would feel more interested in my husband once those things happened. After doing some TDLs, I realize that my model is projecting a lot of negativity into the future: (C) sex life (T) having sex now is just one step closer to a long and disappointing second life (F) resistant (A) avoid my husband’s advances, don’t initiate sex (R) I don’t have sex, I don’t connect intimately with my husband, I disappoint myself in advance, I set myself up for a long and disappointing sex life. Now that I’m more aware of my thoughts, any suggestions on how to proceed toward feeling more connected and working toward a mutually satisfying sex life?