Shame


I phrased an email insensitively and received a very emotive and angry response from a dearly valued colleague. The boss has brought up our relationship with me, as apparently this colleague was complaining about me to the rest of the team. I feel such shame and have apologised to him and taken on what is true in his criticism. However, I am now escalating to thinking I will lose my job, that they’re planning to get rid of me, that I’m not valued, that I’m a problem, etc etc. I realise I’ve made this into a cycle of self criticism now, well behind the event, but I don’t know how to make peace with this. I tried to process (allow; describe, feel) the feeling of shame and of depression but they have lasted 36 hours now, and I’m overwhelmed by them and the fear of the future consequences of my silly, albeit well intentioned, email. Help!