I wondered if you could provide insight into “shoulding” on ourselves. It sometimes sounds positive but it’s always a judgment, isn’t it?

UM
C: I said I would be there at 2:30pm
T: I should leave early
F: judgmental
A: procrastinate, leave late
R: I should’ve left early

IM
C: I said I would be there at 2:30
T: I will leave at exactly the right time
F: relaxed
A: don’t judge myself, get ready early, get there on time
R: I left at the right time