I have two boys, age 5 and 8. The fighting back and forth causes me to have thoughts that make me feel annoyed.

Here’s my model:

C-Boys are having words with each other.
T- They shouldn’t be fighting
F- Annoyed
A- Yell at them to stop; spend time trying to get them to stop; spin with all the thoughts about how I should do something different to control them.
R- I’m fighting with myself and creating more turmoil for everyone in the moment.

Can you please help me process this?