C: Husband says “my sister is bringing gifts over for Easter and is hiding eggs in the yard for the kids.”
T: WTF? I already have stuff planned and hate when she tries to take control of our holiday
F: angry
A: yell at husband, tell him she should’ve asked first, think about how she does this every holiday, sit and stew, think about how he is texting her and they are talking about how crazy I am
R: I show up crazy and am out of control in my thoughts about her

I need some help here. I understand the model but I just don’t see how to see her differently. Every holiday she dictates what is going to happen and my husband goes along with it. He says “it’s a minor thing” but doesn’t feel like that me. I’m also judging myself for not thinking everything she does is wonderful like everyone else.

Please help.