I can see how my thoughts about my sister in law’s pregnancy is creating the result of me not enjoying my own family, and has a ton of impact of me. But, I cannot figure out how to get to neutral with this. I don’t even want to get to “I’m soooo happy for her!” I just want to get to “This doesn’t impact or relate to me in any way.”

Any help with bridge thoughts or next steps? Here are the two models.

Unintentional:

C: Sister in law is pregnant w/ baby #2
T: I want to be pregnant (w/ baby #3)
F: Jealousy/anger
A: Stew
R: Not enjoy the kids I have

Intentional

C: Sister in law is pregnant w/ baby #2
T: That’s fine
F: Neutral
A: Get on with my day
R: Live my own life