I have a question about feeling our feelings. I am confused about which feelings to feel and allow and which feelings are indulgent and therefore not useful to allow and sit in. Brooke said in her episode on feelings that overwhelm, for instance, is an indulgent emotion and so not useful to sit in.
On coaching calls she seems to try and snap clients out of indulgent emotions… I have a client I am about to work with who said she wants to work on overwhelm and that her therapist told her to practice sitting in and feeling her overwhelm… How do we know when the emotion is indulgent… because I can see how lots of “negative” emotions could be seen as indulgent if we are decide to wallow in them…. like resentment or jealousy or anger…. what do you think?