Thank you so much for the super quick response! Question-cant I have both models? In fact-that’s kind of how I approached it when talking w her. It went well— And-it did feel like there was something missing. Perhaps I do need to commit to one result “Over” the other? Is it more important to have open communication or stick to my values? I thought stick to my values for sure-and still do. She says-“Mom, I won’t tell you things if this is how it will be…”. My response-“I am sorry to hear that…I really value our open communication-and..it’s still not ok for you to smoke pot.” And- If you choose to shut down or lie because of that rule—that’s your choice….& I’m here for you.