So quickly deflated

Today I started out with a big list of things to get done, and a basic outline of how I was going to get it done. Tomorrow I’m supposed to play pickleball with my husband’s partner, so I planned errands and tasks in town to coincide with that. Then my husband texts me and says she can’t play, because they have something else planned for that time. I am disappointed, but mostly upset that she doesn’t text me to tell me. So I just text to him “no problem, thanks for letting me know.” I’m pretty sure they are sitting there talking and it’s just easier for her to have him tell me. Later she did text me, but by then I’m feeling completely depleted and don’t get done the other things I wanted to get done today. I hate it when I do this. I immediately let myself go to a place of bad energy and bad thoughts. Help!