Son’s rude behaviour v3

What changes for you when you own that you are creating your experience here and that your son doesn’t have to change at all for you to feel better if you want to?
I can see that me feeling better is up to me and my thoughts. What do I do with the rest of the world though? The teacher that calls to complain about his behaviour, the people on the street he bumps into with this scooter, the waitress he is rude to? I want him to be a good member of society.

What if you also considered that you don’t have to feel better if you don’t want to as long as you own that you are creating your experience? How might that have you showing up with more love for your son?
I do want to feel better about this situation. I do love him. But sometimes I really don’t enjoy being around him and it makes me scared to go out and do things with him because he is so unpredictable.

I understand the manual. But I also know it’s my job to lead this boy into being a man and I do have beliefs about how he should behave.