I’m not sure it’s appropriate topic here on Ask BROOKE , but I’ll try . My husband is not happy with me about meeting his sexual demands – his words , he makes comments how he doesn’t get what he wants , how I am not dressing up for him to excite him , how I’m always asleep at nite and not available , etc . Whenever we try to discuss this – ends up being a heated argument with name callings, and nothing gets resolved . I become more tense around him and guarded . Situation becomes more acute when we both off together , away from home , which is every week . I am in scholars a long time and approach it much more differently then before – stating facts , dropping manually most of the time – allowing him to be who he is . But feeling guilty present and I’m trying to model it away . But I want to resolve this issue , I want to genuinely want intimacy , and be desiring . I know for fact that it’s my thoughts and only thoughts , because I practice it and see results . But I just can’t do anything right by his standards , and vicious cycle starts .