This work is so amazing! Thank you, Brooke, for putting it into the world! This is my 3rd month in Scholars, and the daily self-coaching is becoming so powerful. Sometimes I think I don’t have any thoughts to download, and then a tiny little thing will appear, and BOOM- that’s THE thing.

Yesterday’s model produced action that made me feel happy, and empowered, instead of people pleasing. Here it is:
Unintentional:
C: Friends from long ago coming to visit
T: I’m not excited, I feel pressured to host and entertain and feed them and make everything perfect.
F: Resentful
A: Do things out of duty, don’t relax, overgive.
R: Don’t have fun

Intentional:
C: Same
T: I can set boundaries that make me comfortable (I repeated this over and over all day)
F: Centered, welcoming
A: Ask gently for them to find lodging so everyone will be more comfortable( they had already offered, and I said “NO, Stay with us”)
R: Have fun with them!!
I’m astonished! And they were fine with the request! (Perhaps relieved?) I can do whatever I want, as long as I like my reason. Mind blown!