Staying optimistic when trying to conceive / get pregnant

My husband and I have started trying to conceive. I was on birth control for over a decade and have been taking measures to repair my hormones and cycle (food, vitamins, no alcohol, etc.). It hasn’t worked yet (it’s only been a couple months which I know isn’t that long…) but I’m having a hard time staying optimistic and hopeful (which of course then makes me sad and frustrated with my body and also puts pressure on my husband because he’s trying to stay optimistic too). I have tried a few models around it but all I keep feeling is pressure, fear, anxiety, sadness around it. I really haven’t found a way to turn my feelings around on this. Any suggestions?