I am having difficulty filling in the parts of the model with an issue in my life. I will just give you the parts of the model I have so far, and I am hoping you can help me figure out where to go from there. (It involves my 21 year old daughter that I am very close to and have an amazing relationship with). She goes to college 7 hours away from home, and will most likely get a job in CA after she graduates in May. (We live in Texas).

Unintentional Thought Pattern:
C: Megan left yesterday to go back to school
T: She will never live at home again. She is going to live really far away and I won’t be able to do life with her anymore. I will hardly ever see her.
F: Anxiety and deep sadness
A: I buffer and avoid my feelings by staying busy, drinking, eating, playing computer game
R: (I could not think of a result that is related to my thoughts about this)

Intentional Thought Pattern:
C: Megan left yesterday to go back to school
T: ??
F: Peace
A: Let myself feel my feelings and think new, more positive thoughts
R: I can accept that Megan is grown and finding her way in the world.

I would appreciate some direction with this. Thanks!
Chris (my name makes many people think I am a guy, but I’m Megan’s mom 🙂