Stuck in frustration models


I think that I’m stuck in a loop of frustration

C: Children do something
T: I don’t like what they are doing
F: frustration
A: to get rid of frustration by relaxing into it
R: Enter below model

C: frustration
T: I must relax into this frustration in order to get rid of it so I don’t snap at the children
F: frustration
A: snap at children
R: feel even more that need to get rid of frustration, start model again

Where do I go from here? I think that I’m trying to resist frustration by “relaxing into it” and therefore not getting anywhere.