Suspicious Actions


I believe my husband is planning to divorce me. We have been having marital issues for quite some time and he is no longer willing to seek counseling with me, although he continues his own self counseling for his mental illnesses of depression and anxiety.

He has bought a book on how to protect yourself in a divorce. He has a list of divorce lawyers. He bought a safe that he has hidden.

Since finding thought work, I have been able to let go of a lot of past hurts because I realize that I made them mean something that hurt me. I have become very intentional about showing up as my best self since then as well because at the end of the day I want to know that I am showing up for me. I have been working this model over and over but I struggle with the thoughts part sometimes. The only way I have been able to come to some sort of peace about this is to remember that he struggles severely with anxiety and depression and therefore it is his illnesses and fears that are driving his actions.

I am struggling to show up as a kind and loving wife when my lower brain is focusing on those circumstances that at any moment he could drop this bomb on me. I want to show up as my best self even if this becomes the course my life takes. I find myself resisting this course because it doesn’t make any sense to me. It makes me very sad because I believe we could have an amazing marriage one day.

C – Husband has bought a book on how to protect yourself in a divorce. He has a list of divorce lawyers. He bought a safe and has hidden it.
T – My husband is planning on divorcing me
F – scared anxious sad
A- reach out to Brooke for help on my model
R – ?????