Taking care of self

Brain thinks if I take care of myself then I’ll be alone.

When I think of being self-sufficient – brain is like then I don’t need anybody (man) you can go now…..

Doesn’t make sense but is what brain is doing

I’ve been coached for 45 mins on this outside of scs and inside of scs, doing thought work on it….. need help understanding how to shift this, what the hell to think, etc. . .