I have some issue with disrespect. I’m living with several people and there are always some power plays going on with general discussions – always one upping each other.
Here’s my model:
C – I’m asked a question about something I am a specialist in then mocked for the answer
T – They are making fun of me and being disrespectful
F – Picked on – Made fun of – ridiculed
A – Visibly seen as hurt (find it hard to hide my feelings); remove myself from the situation – walk away; think mean things about the people involved and how I can hurt their feelings at other times; angry but cannot show it.
R – Isolation; self-created barrier with the people I live with; lack of intimacy; distance between the people I share a home with.
Intentional model:
C – I’m asked a question about something I am a specialist in then mocked for the answer.
T – They are being playful and wanting to be fun
F – ??
A – Seek energy of the current situation and embrace it; try to playfully poke fun back
R – I’m more involved with the shared vibe of the environment and take things less personally