Teaching the Model to kids.

I am a mom and finding the Model and LCS tools so helpful for myself. I am trying to model this for my kids (5,7) by basically stating the model out loud when I experience a big emotion and demonstrating for them. I want to give them these tools, but I am stuck on ‘Is it okay fair for me to say “you get to decide how you feel” or “he can’t hurt your feelings if you don’t him” and risk invalidating their emotions when they need to be heard. I know this is a tool to teach that will help them, like having good manners or learning to swim, but it also feels a bit invasive on childhood and them feeling heard and supported. Can I get some guidance on best practices for this?