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Dating a man for over a year. We love each other but I want commitment and he is not there yet so I set up boundaries, no longer dating, no sex, I’m going to date other people.

UM:
C: He texted me “I need to feel like I am ready to be in a relationship and not making a pressured decision. I have no idea of a time table, I have been close to making the decision in the last year.”
T: I want him but what if I keep waiting and then years go by and he moves onto another woman and I am left alone.
F: Worried
A: Ruminate, worry, fear never moving on, fear making a mistake, Resent him, Understand his reasons, Not want to let go, Focus in it vs work, Shame myself, Second guess decisions, wanna date him again but don’t, want to accept what he is giving in fear of missing out.
R: Give power away

IM
C: He texted me “I need to feel like I am ready to be in a relationship and not making a pressured decision. I have no Idea of a time table, I have been close to making the decision in the last year.”
T: I love his honesty, I will move on and date other people because I want a committed relationship
F:Confident
A: let it go, less pressure, what will be will be, work, feel lighter, nicer to him and myself, grow stronger, self love
R: Hold my power

The IM feels so real and true to me. My insides feel like I can breath when I think about actually being that IM woman. At the same time I feel trapped in the chaos of the other model. Repeating patterns, giving my power away, settling for less than what I want, etc. I feel I have a scarcity mindset with him and I’m working to get it out, but it feels pretty powerful or strong willed inside me.