Hello! Thank you so much for that coaching, I would love some more clarification…

What do you mean that “The R in your first model is: I should take responsibility for my own emotions.” ?? How did we get that result from my UM?

Also, you said that I can lovingly express an expectation without demanding it, and then whatever that person chooses to do is on them…
So how would I set a boundary around them taking hours to text back sometimes? Or how can I be ok with someone being them even if the choice they are making brings up thoughts in me that has me frustrated?

Lastly, how do I support myself through unconditional love and compassion? It sounds good to read what you wrote but I have no clue what that looks like. Whenever he takes hours to text or call back I’m typically consumed with thoughts that are all negative until I hear from him…
I try to think of more positive thoughts but the negative assumptions or thoughts are just so natural and prominent.