The conversation I needed….


I popped into CVS today to get something as I headed to an afternoon party. As I was checking out (without purchasing anything at all related to this subject), the cashier said to me “I had my first hot flash and I told my mom and she laughed at me.” My response was “I have not had any hot flashes.” I did not even think about adding the word YET to the end of that sentence. But I noticed that my brain was aware that I did not add that. There was no war about adding it or not. It just took note as I watched it take note. Without missing a beat in the conversation I continued on, “I keep telling myself I am going to have the easiest menopause known to man.” She replied that she wished she could talk herself into it like that.

So queue to now, middle of the night, and I’m thinking about this conversation and I have been thinking that the universe inspired her to say that to me so that I could give her the idea that she could tell herself it will be easy. But I thought I missed the opportunity to tell her the important part to that is that I *decided* I am going to have the easiest menopause ever. I made a decision. Which I follow up with telling myself (whenever any thoughts come up) that I’m going to have the easiest menopause.

C-menopause
T-I have decided I am going to have the easiest menopause ever.
F-no worries, no big deal, calm, cool and collected
A-made the decision, tell myself regularly that I am going to have the easiest menopause ever
R-my experience will be how I decided it will be and no big deal.

I had been having a negative impact to my sleeping patterns over the last few months which I presume is related to being in perimenopause and I just realized while thinking about the conversation that I never applied this thinking or decision making to the perimenopausal stage. Time to do that.

C-perimenopause
T-Just like I decided I am going to have the easiest menopause ever I can also decide to have the easiest perimenopause ever.
F-easier about it, calm, cool and collected
A-make the decision, tell myself regularly that I am having the easiest perimenopause known to mankind
R-my experience will be how I decide it will be and no big deal. The past does not have to equal the future.

As I am typing all of this right now though I’m remembering that 8 hours before this conversation I had been watching a ridiculously long 1 hour sales funnel video for some product about how women are different than men and our needs change as our hormonal stages change. Yada yada yada. It was all boiled down to an exercise program packaged to look like it was hormone related. But I digress. For half a second or three I was about to purchase it before cooler minds prevailed and I decided I didn’t need it. So I had been thinking the universe arranged the conversation for me to help her. Hmmm. Perhaps it was arranged for me to help myself in the process of helping her!

I love it when the universe has my back!