The Manual

I know it isn’t appropriate to try to control others according to our manual. But, then Brooke did a podcast about how a friend had her back, and supported her during a time when she was heavily criticized on social media.

I have a friend who, according to my manual, is falling very short in supporting me.

When is it ok to change circumstances when people don’t act according to how you would like them to act? I want friends who have my back. that seems reasonable, I have their backs. I can’t square this without worrying that I am simply imposing my manual and not loving my friends for who they are.