Thought loops on having another baby

C: Money and debt
T: We can’t afford another baby
F: Devastated
A: Think about how much I want another baby
R: Feel sad about not having another baby

C: Another baby
T: I wish I wouldn’t spend so much time thinking about another baby
F: Shame
A: Beat myself for thinking about another baby so frequently
R: Feel terrible, still no baby

C: I am “advanced maternal age,” according to western medicine
T: Time is ticking, running out to have another baby
F: Helpless
A: Think about how we don’t have enough time, money, resources, energy to add another human to our family.
R: Spemd time being sad + no baby

I’m so in my brain about this that I can’t see any other models. Can you coaches offer any?