My husband engages in binge drinking 1-2 times per week (sometimes more). We’ve been married for just over 5 years and his drinking patterns have largely remained the same in that time. My father is an alcoholic, so my husband’s drinking patterns set off all sorts of alarm bells in my brain. He’s never been physically abusive but he’s a different person when he drinks.

I’ve Brooke’s teachings in other parts of our marriage with great success (his only job is to be there for me to love), but I’m stumbling here. I understand that I cannot change his behavior. I don’t want to live with someone whose drinking patterns scare me; I also love my husband and don’t want to get a divorce. Are there any suggestions you can make to help me organize my thoughts around his drinking?