Time management question

I find that the quality of my day depends greatly on what I do and don’t do after 8:00 pm the night before. 8:00 pm is the time the kids are in bed and my husband and I are alone.

To get bedtime stuff done and be asleep by 11:00 pm we have to start at 10:00 pm. That’s 2 hours, assuming the kids actually get in bed on time. It’s not enough time!!! I am great with my whole day, but the evenings are brutal.

The evening is my only time with my husband so in that time we might watch videos from the study vault, talk about our day, work on our own individual projects/research, chill out and watch a movie, make adulting decisions without a kid interrupting.

But 2 hours is only enough time for one of those a night. It sucks. And I am so exhausted by that time. And I feel bad for my husband because he clearly doesn’t want to do anything. We adult because I schedule it.

I wish we had time at night to adult and chill.