I’ve never been married. Now I’m in my 50s and marriage is knocking on the door.

Major adjustment having to change from independent woman mindset to marriage mindset. I feel myself fighting this.

At times, I feel like I have to let go of a significant part of who I am. I like my freedom and flexibility. I like only having to consult myself on decisions in my life. But I also do want a lifelong partner.

I feel like I’m stuck in this gray area, and desperately need to decide which side of the fence I’m going to be on. I’m experiencing some anxiety. I have mixed feelings due to the level of responsibility that comes along with this.

I hear horror stories and good stories about marriage. My parents have been married for 55 years.

Marriage has always been a part of my plan. But my career took off, and I didn’t look back. Now, here I am, loving my life, loving my independence, loving my freedom, with a great boyfriend. But now he wants to get married.

How do I get to a place where I can clearly decide what’s best for my life – single or marriage?