thanks for your answer,
i listed the story vs facts from what i had written, but I still felt angry, then also a little stupid because I started to think was this relationship a massive thing in my head and to him it was nothing, so maybe im not justified in flagging his behaviour.
I have been working on processing the emotions for a while now, since seeing his interaction with the other girl it feels like phase two.

but i never feel like im really moving on, is this part of trauma bonding or is this just my thinking, am i not practising thinking thoughts like ‘ i can move on from this’ regularly enough? Or should i accept i might feel terrible for another year and be okay with that?